"I'm telling you, things are getting out of hand. Or maybe I'm discovering that things were never in my hands."
"The only comfort comes in thinking about how nice it was to know them, and how nice it was to brush against goodness for a season."
"I believe love is primarily a choice and only sometimes a feeling. If you want to feel love, choose to love and be patient."
"Fidelity to commitment in the face of doubts and fears is a very spiritual thing."
"My life is the story of a man who always wants to carry too much. My spiritual quest is the painful process of learning to let go of things not essential."
"We think having faith means being convinced God exists in the same way we are convinced a chair exists. People who cannot be completely convinced of God's existence think faith is impossible for them. Not so. People who doubt can have great faith because faith is something you do, not something you think. In fact, the greater your doubt the more heroic your faith."
"God, I don't have great faith, but I can be faithful. My belief in you may be seasonal, but my faithfulness will not. I will follow in the way of Christ. I will act as though my life and the lives of others matter. I will love. I have no greater gift to offer than my life. Take it."
"When someone allows you to bear his burdens, you have found deep friendship."
"I don't think anyone can DO anything that would make him worthy of love. Love is a gift and cannot be earned. It can only be given."
"Integrity combined with faithfulness is a powerful force and worthy of great respect."
"EVERY path may lead you to God, even the weird ones. Most of us are on a journey. We're looking for something, though We're not always sure what that is. The way is foggy much of the time. I suggest you slow down and follow some of the side roads that appear suddenly in the mist."
"Forgiveness does not always lead to a healed relationship. Some people are not capable of love, and it might be wise to let them go along with your anger. Wish them well, and let them go their way."
"There isn't much better in this life than finding a way to spend a few hours in conversation with people you respect and love. You have to carve this time out of your life because you aren't really living without it."
"The universe seems wondrous to me, with or without God. It has powerful lines and uncompromising ways. Patience and time sit like sages on the planets, strong and impersonal. There is a stark beauty to all of this."
"And so faith is closing your eyes and following the breath of your soul down to the bottom of life, where existence and nonexistence have merged into irrelevance. All that matters is the little part you play in the vast drama."
"You can forget a lot of things, but you cannot forget a woman's name and claim to love her."
"Love the ones you can. Touch the ones you can reach. Let the others go."
"I think people want their illusions and writers are mostly illusion. When you read their words, you read a flattened, incomplete version of the writer."
"I have been truthful all along the way. The truth is more interesting, and if you tell the truth you never have to cover your tracks."
"This is the challenge of writing. You have to be very emotionally engaged in what you're doing, or it comes out flat. You can't fake your way through this."
"I'm searching through all that has ever been hoped, in praise of what can never be known."
"Memory is a giggling sprite and will not be tamed. She takes flight the moment the present becomes the past."
"When you really trust someone, you have to be okay with not understanding some things."
"Good writing takes more than just time; it wants your best moments and the best of you."
"When someone is giving you their theology, their God words, you should listen hard and be very gentle. The time to deliver your God words is when you are asked."
"Dignity comes not from control, but from understanding who you are and taking your rightful place in the world."
"Some things you do because you want to. Some things you do because of the needs of others in your family."
